LIVING IN THE NOW
First, we try living in the now just in order to stay sober — and it works. Once the idea has become a part of our thinking, we find that living life in 24-hour segments is an effective and satisfying way to handle many other matters as well.
— LIVING SOBER, p. 7
“One Day At A Time.” To a newcomer this and other one-liners of A.A. may seem ridiculous. The passwords of the A.A. Fellowship can become lifelinesin moments of stress. Each day can be like a rose unfurling according to the plan of a Power greater than myself. My program should be planted in the right location, just as it will need to be groomed, nourished, and protected from disease. My planting will require patience, and my realizing that some flowers will be more perfect than others. Each stage of the petals’ unfolding can bring wonder and delight if I do not interfere or let my expectations override my acceptance — and this brings serenity.
It is absolutely true that the “one day at a time” moniker can seem like a gimmick to those early in recovery. What does that even mean, one day at a time?
I think that if everyone lived by that lifestyle we would all be better off. It means, for today, I am going to be the best me I can be. For a recovering addict that means, for today, I am not going to drink or drug. Then, I will worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes.
My first “big-boy” job interview came in 2012 with a sales company I was applying for. At the time, I had been clean for just over 2 years and had seen great successes in my life. I had started serving at a downtown restaurant and was helping plan events for a nationwide company that flew me across the country. I had also gotten an apartment, gotten engaged, and had just recently had an accepted offer for me and my then fiance(now wife) to buy our first home together.
when I went to the interview one question I was asked was “what motivates you?” Now, during my drinking or drugging days I would have come back with some cliche answer, some bs spewing that I knew would be a passing answer. However, one thing I began doing early in recovery was being “overly-transparent”. I was honest. With myself and with others. In addiction honesty is not something that addicts do. They are hiding bottles, hiding drugs, hiding their lives from those closest to them. In recovery you have to get honest.
So when I answered the interviewers question about “what motivates me” I knocked her back out-of-her chair. I remember it verbatim.
“Well, I’m a recovering addict. I was addicted to drugs for nearly 10 years and I have been clean for just over two. What that means is every single day, by the Grace of God, you get a better version of me than you got the day before. That’s because I live one day at a time and strive to always be better. Since I stopped using drugs and got clean I have lost over 100 lbs, I have managed a downtown restaurant at times, I have planned and coordinated national events, I have gotten an accepted offer on a house with my fiance and, if you hire me, I will be the hardest or most driven sales associate on your team.”
Think about this for one moment. I had never met this lady. She was the Assistant Vice President for the sales division of the company. I did not have a college education. I was essentially someone coming in for an interview with nothing more than only 2 years of truly consistent employment, two arrests on my record, and under-educated for the position comparatively speaking. She was blown away.
We then begin discussing her days at college and how she felt, perhaps, at one time she may have been drifting into addiction and without intervention from those closest to her she could easily be in the same circumstances I had previously found myself in. Needless to say, I got the job. I since have been promoted and hired away from another company in which I can manage sales. I did not disappoint my promise to be better each day. I “lived in the now”.
I tell you this story because it may be uncomfortable to “live in the now” or to tell someone you are a “recovering addict” who “lives one day at a time”. However, I assure you that it is that transparency that will help you thrive within your recovery. An addict needs to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Live one day at a time. Win today and then start stacking up days! God Bless
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