Words of wisdom from Bill at What…Me Sober? on making amends. Read the whole thing, but this little passage caught my eye:
This work is all about losing the self-justification and excuses. Amends aren’t about making ourselves look good; they’re about acknowledging what we’ve done — the fact that we harmed others — and repairing the damage. We need the clarity provided by the first seven steps in order to honestly write an 8th and carry out a 9th.