One of my favorite bloggers learned a pretty big lesson bootlegging a 4th Step. She did a great job untangling it all in this post:
I came up with a dozen ways the event effected me, such as a sense of feeling unworthy, dirty, and shameful, which eventually led to my actions that were promiscuous and unsafe. The exercise became a ticket to beat myself up for every part of the event from start to finish. Hindsight is 20/20. I should have NEVER started with the biggest issue without some forethought.
Read the whole thing for a lesson in healthy and insightful perseverance.
I watched a video of a guy talking to a group about how to do a 4th step in AA. The speaker obviously knew the members in the workshop so it seemed like a meeting that regularly meets and this time they recorded it. I liked the speaker so I watched the full 60 minutes.
A thought went through my head that maybe I shouldn’t be doing this by myself. I kind of know that the point of a sponsor is to walk me through the steps yet here I am thinking I can do it all on my own. I’ll just learn how to do it from this guy in the video, I thought. So, that’s what I did.
I made 4 columns just like they do in the big book with a place to write resentments, the cause, how did it effect me, and what did I do wrong and/or why am…
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