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One of my favorite bloggers writes with painful honesty of the healing her marriage is going through as they both recover, and the image I’m left with is one of turning an aircraft carrier around at sea.

“I can’t pinpoint exactly when and what caused the distance between us. 7 years of infertility? Fulltime jobs? Children? Depression? It was all of the above plus a lack of effort to make time for each other.

But, most of all, I mustn’t forget my drinking.”

What I found most encouraging was her steadfast and clear-headed self-examination in picking through the parts of her broken life that needed to be reassembled, while discarding those pieces that no longer serve any useful, i.e. healthy purpose.

My Healing Recovery

Bridging Emotional Distance

Alcohol has significantly impacted my ability to emotionally connect with people.   The relationship I have with my husband is where the emotional distance feels the most obvious. And, as the fog of alcohol clears from my head, I see just how much our relationship has been breached.

We started out with a deep emotional connection where we shared intimate details about ourselves. My husband recalls these bygone days and longs for the time when I depended on him for just about everything. Of course, I remember those early days too; but I’ve changed so much that I don’t see those days ever returning.

I can’t pinpoint exactly when and what caused the distance between us. 7 years of infertility? Fulltime jobs? Children? Depression? It was all of the above plus a lack of effort to make time for each other.

But, most of all, I mustn’t forget my drinking.

When…

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