repost from emotionaldrinking: it’s not easy being married to an addict in recovery.

Wow. From Fern at emotionaldrinking… getting down to the heart of the matter, to quote of my generation’s decent songwriters:

I sit here contemplating my next step. I decide to read about AA and marriage and I come across enlightening words that I need to hear.

Chris M. Tatevosian, author of the book, “Life Interrupted: It’s not all about me,” struggled with MS and not alcoholism but his words ring true. He writes, “My problem was that I acted like my problems outweighed the importance of any problem or concern she had…. I felt the world owed (me) everything.”

That got me thinking.

More where that came from.

My Healing Recovery

A year into this sobriety and I feel like the journey has only begun.  AA has helped me to live a sober life and the steps are a way to continue working on myself.  I want to talk about recovery and those feelings that I buried for so many years. Unfortunately, my husband and I are at a crossroads because he doesn’t.  We are in couple’s therapy and it has uncovered emotional charged topics that my husband says are unnecessary to continue talking about.

To keep talking about it focuses on the negative, he said.  He’s done, he said.  This talking is mental abuse, he said.  I can chose to be unhappy but he is going to do something fun today, he said.  It doesn’t involve me because I’m emotionally detached and I want to be negative, he said. 

You sound angry, I said.  I’ll be here when you want…

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I believe chocolate in virtually any configuration is the finest dessert in the history of mankind. I believe my wife is the sexiest woman in the world. I believe modern capitalism will never be replaced by a different -- or better -- form of economics. I believe in clutch hitting in baseball. I believe the Kimber 1911 .45 ACP is the finest handgun ever made in America. I believe the Mossberg Flex 500 pump-action 12 gauge shotgun is the best home defense ever made in America. I believe Tom Waits is the best song writer of my generation. I believe unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. I believe in equality for everyone, except reporters and photographers. As CS Lewis once beautifully wrote, I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else. I believe that, on balance, Christianity has done more good for humans than bad. I believe it is better to tell the truth than a lie. I believe it is better to be free than to be a slave. I believe it is better to know than to be ignorant. And I believe if I yell at the TV during a Colts game, they will play better.

2 thoughts on “repost from emotionaldrinking: it’s not easy being married to an addict in recovery.

    1. greg w Post author

      So much my pleasure. Your post is highly relevant to a good number of folks at Club East here in Indianapolis. Wonderfully written… and so much a part of the journey for many of us.

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