But in AA I don’t think we really understand integrity. And I couldn’t come up with anything as catchy as Easy Does It, but here it is: Integrity is what you do with power. In other words, Integrity is what you do with people who are weaker than you.
You know, it’s become apparent to me that there are all kinds of people in these rooms at Club East who are just emotional leeches. We’re spiritually and relationally undernourished in very profound ways, and highly untrustworthy. We’re really a pretty abusive little community. And you know, I just really don’t want anyone to get hurt when I leave the room. And to narrow the focal point somewhat, if you can be alone in these rooms with these people and their lives are enhanced as a result of you being in their lives, then you are a person of integrity.
When a person has integrity, they use power for the good of others, and not for their own personal gain. This is why I think so highly of some of the people here, because they are givers, not takers. And I can trust them when I leave the room, and entrust to them the safety of the men and women who come to us for help.
Money quote: If you can be in the company of another person who is weaker than you and their life is enhanced because of you, you are a person of integrity.
And please note that integrity is not the same as authenticity. I’m not a real big fan of authenticity and here’s why. People say, “I just want to be authentic.” Well, you can find authentic people in prison. Prisons are full of authentic people.
“I just felt like killing him. It just felt right. It was me. It’s who I am in the core of my being.”
We’re big on authenticity, and I think we forget that our hearts are wicked without God. And there’s also difference between being transparent and being authentic.
Now… what creates integrity in a person’s life is humility. And this is a tough one because Christians — specifically evangelicals — have believed for a long time that the way you give people integrity is by giving them authority. But the way a person grows in integrity is by growing in humility.
That’s enough for one day. More later.